Toxic habits can cause irreparable damage to your life. Besides adversely affecting your life, toxic behavior can harm innocent people, including those that love and care for you. For your long-term happiness and success, it is essential to possess enough self-awareness to know when your actions are negatively affecting your life. You must possess the willpower and fortitude to self-correct these toxic habits before further damage is done. Habits of a toxic nature are often of the self-inflicted variety. The positive aspect of all of this is that you have the awareness to understand this harmful behavior. As such, you have the opportunity to do something about them. Avoiding these commonly experienced toxic habits will bring more meaningfulness to your life, while helping you to drop the extra baggage you have been carrying around.
BEING ENVIOUS OF OTHERS – Being envious of another person robs you of your ability to practice gratitude. Not only is this an immature mindset, but it is also an unnecessary and unproductive one. Envying without taking action to better your current circumstances is a personal weakness.
TAKING THINGS TOO PERSONALLY – People take things too personally to a toxic level. This happens when they believe others are in “attack mode,” and they’re the target. The simple fact is that you live in a world that is often cruel and unforgiving. Here’s a truth that’s somehow eluded most of us: what others say and do to you is an accurate reflection upon them, not you.
PLAYING THE VICTIM – Constant complaining often manifests into a sense of victimization. This victimized outlook can wreak havoc in various areas of your life: work, relationships, and concept of self, among them. When you make an effort to stop the complaints while refusing to view yourself as a victim of circumstance, you regain a sense of power. With this power, you realize your innate ability to overcome any situation.
NOT LETTING GO OF PAIN OR LOSS – Letting go of any kind of emotion or loss is among life’s hardest lessons. Though letting go of anything can be tough; it is often the healthiest way forward, as you slowly release negative thoughts and emotions that you have held onto for so long.
OBSESSIVE NEGATIVE THINKING – A continuously pessimistic mindset is highly toxic in nature. It clouds your judgment, pushes others away, and neutralizes much of the joy you should otherwise experience in life. You must do whatever is necessary to rid yourself of this type of mindset. Meditate, practice moment-to-moment mindfulness, or make a daily gratitude list.
LACKING SELF-CONTROL – When you lack emotional self-control, you will almost certainly lash out at others who don’t deserve it. When you lack mental self-control, you will easily give way to impulses no matter how harmful.
BEING JUDGMENTAL – Thinking superficially judgmental thoughts, about anyone, is always a toxic behavior. These thoughts are often unsubstantiated and are almost always an indication of a problem within yourself. Furthermore, being judgmental drains energy and invokes negative thought patterns.
BEING CRUEL TO ANYONE OR ANYTHING – Cruelty is one of the biggest problems that humanity faces. When humans are cruel, they demonstrate a lack of empathy, respect, and compassion for others. Displaying cruel behavior is usually a manifestation of your own inner conflicts. Should you discover that you are acting harsh, you need to stop and regain your sense of compassion. This often means taking a few deep breaths or walking away from the situation.
ACTING IMMORALLY BECAUSE YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH IT – Acting in any way immoral knowing you can get away with it is a toxic behavior. In almost every circumstance, when you choose to act immorally, another person is susceptible to being hurt. We all face temptations to which we either deny or give in to. It is up to you to act honestly and with good intentions.
CREATING A FALSE PERSONA – To compensate for any perceived flaws, many people will create a false persona, or alter ego. When you make an attempt to hide part or all of your true self, you engage in deception. The problem is that this false portrayal threatens your relationships and further disconnects you from who you truly are. You don’t need to replace yourself, you just need to work on yourself to the best of your ability.