A one-sided relationship can be exhausting for the person who is not in control. You begin to feel like things are unfair when it comes to the balance of your love. If you’re feeling a bit off-balance, here are possible signs that you’re in a one-sided relationship.
YOU’RE TIRED OF GIVING
A relationship should be give and take, but one of you is doing all the giving and the other takes more than their share. You remembered your partner’s birthday but they forgot yours. You brought home a surprise take out dinner but they never return the favor. The one-sided giving doesn’t have to be monetary either. Are you the one always giving your partner pleasure in the bedroom, but when they have their fun they roll over and go to sleep?
TRUST IS A ONE-WAY STREET
Your partner told their work colleague about that part of your anatomy that you are self-conscious about and it got back to you. Even a small betrayal of trust can hurt a relationship dramatically. If you can’t trust your partner with small secrets, how can you trust them with bigger ones?
YOU ARE THE KEEPER OF THE RELATIONSHIP HISTORY
You know when your first date was, your first kiss, and the anniversary of the first time you made love, but your partner is oblivious to these significant events. If you are the event-planner for your relationship, it could be a sign that you’re in a one-sided relationship.
YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S FAMILY
Although you have made an effort to bring your romantic relationship and your family together, your partner has never done the same for you. It’s as though you’ve been kept a secret from any of their relatives.
YOU DO ALL OF THE EMOTIONAL WORK
Researchers call the caring for others emotions the “emotional work” of relationships. Keeping the relationship in an emotional balance is difficult work. If your partner isn’t supporting your feelings as you support theirs, you are in a one-sided relationship.
YOU DO MORE THAN YOUR FAIR SHARE OF HOUSEWORK
You walk the dog, do the dishes more, clean the house, and prepare dinner far more often than your partner does. Your partner should want to display their love for you through the little things. Saying “I love you” is far more than just expressing it verbally. Some of the truest “I Love You’s” come in the form of these daily chores that they don’t mind helping with.
YOU SPEND MORE MONEY ON YOUR PARTNER THAN THEY DO ON YOU
When it comes to the finances of your relationship, you pick up the check more often than your partner does. Not that you are keeping track of how much you have spent on them, but you get a general sense that there is a lack of balance between your level of contribution and your partner’s.
When one person controls the economics of the partnership, the other one has less control, and tends to place blame on their partner for restricting their ability to make decisions with money.
YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T SEEM TO CARE
You were gone all day but your partner never bothered to ask you where you were or what you were doing. When your partner seems unconcerned about what you did with your day, they are treating you more like a casual roommate than a romantic partner. Partners care for each other and they demonstrate that by expressing an interest in their mate’s activities.
YOU SUSPECT YOU MAY LOVE YOUR PARTNER MORE THAN THEY LOVE YOU
The relationship had felt one-sided in your heart too. With fewer signs of caring than you had hoped for from your partner, you start to wonder if they don’t love you as much as you love them.