Couples that have successful, loving relationships aren’t just lucky, they work at it. Successful relationships don’t just happen, they are the result of choices made by the couple. Couples that have loving relationships are taking specific actions that people in unsuccessful relationships aren’t taking. A successful relationship isn’t as difficult as it may seem, it is the result of each person taking emotional, physical, financial, organizational and spiritual responsibility within their relationship. Doing these five things will help ensure you and your partner will have a successful loving relationship.

Treat your partner with kindness. Do you spend time focusing on what you don’t like about your partner? People in successful relationships treat their partner with kindness. It is far more important to be kind than to try to control your partner with anger, judgement, criticism, blame or withdrawal. Make the spiritual attribute of kindness to your partner your highest priority.

Take personal responsibility for your own feelings. People in loving relationships don’t make their partner responsible for their feelings. They don’t see themselves as victims of their partner’s choices. Rather they learn how to manage their own feelings without dumping their upset on their partner. When feeling depressed, resentful, guilty or angry they look within themselves to find what may be causing these painful feelings. 

Manage your time and space in ways that work for your partner. Be motivated to discover ways of living together that meets the needs of your partner as well as yourself. Make sure you have enough time to talk, play, resolve conflict, make love. Make time to spend with the children, time for chores and time for relaxation. Take care of your mutual living space in ways that respect your partner’s needs. If your highest priority is showing kindness to each other, both partners will strive to make the living environment pleasant for both. 

Manage your money in ways that don’t create stress for yourself or your partner. Couples in a successful, loving relationship mutually decide on their budget and then stick to it. One partner does not spend money in such a way as to create stress for the other partner. Neither partner makes unilateral financial decisions that have a negative effect on the other partner. 

Strive to take care of your physical health. When two people care deeply about each other they do not behave in ways that cause their partner to fear for their well being. People in loving relationships do not want their partner to suffer the grief of loss so they strive to take care of themselves. Eat well, exercise and refrain from taking unnecessary risks. Make the effort to show your partner you care enough about them to care about yourself.