Ok party people, so you have decided to pop the question, only thing left to do is buy the ring, how hard can that be? Well, speaking from experience, pretty freaking hard. This is the symbol of your love and it has to be perfect, so let’s figure this out together.
I popped the question to my wife a few years ago and let me tell you, it was a much bigger ordeal than I ever planned. Since I’ve been there and done that, I’ll walk you through the process, giving my advice along the way.
How much do you spend, what kind of stone. Should I talk to them beforehand? All good questions and hopefully I can answer some or all of them for you. Much of this is personal preference, so hopefully you know what your significant other actually likes and what they would prefer.
First things first, you better be damn sure that they are going to say yes. Too many people go through he entire ring shopping process and they aren’t sure if they will say yes. Crazy to me, I’m too busy to spend that much time and money on a maybe. So before you even think about going ring shopping, make sure she/he is going to say yes.
Time to do some investigative research and figure out what kind of ring will be perfect. Check out what kind of rings they already have, are they big and gaudy or sleek and stylish? Is your significant other athletic? Maybe get them a sleeker ring so its not getting caught while they workout. Do they like flashy and shiny things? Then maybe swing for the fences and get a big ass diamond. Do they prefer other gems? Maybe look into their birthstone or other favorite gemstone. I was kind of screwed with this with my wife’s birthstone being a diamond.
Money is always a deciding factor. How much do you spend? The supposed industry standard is 3 months salary, which in my opinion is dumb. Too many people start out their marriage in serious debt because of this ludicrous standard, probably created by the jewelry industry. Spend however much you feel confident in spending. Save money in advance and don’t put it on a credit card. Credit card debt is just going to keep piling up so avoid that at all costs, instead put a few hundred dollars away at a time and work up to something special. If your loved one is pressuring you to hurry up, then maybe they aren’t the right one in the first place.
Ask for Help
I’m not saying ask your significant other for help, I hate when people do that, instead, ask their mom or beat friend. Shoot, ask your mom, that’s what I did, and it was a great decision. I went ring shopping with my mom and I had a blast. Moms know all and they know their children best, so that’s where I started. Best friends are another great resource, they know their friend and are usually excited to help.
Stay away from the Mall
You can find much better deals on rings at jewelers in other locations. Malls charge a bunch for rent and these jewelry stores have a bunch of overhead, so you are paying for that. See if your city has a jewelry district or possible discount jewelers. I shopped in Los Angeles and there is an amazing discount jewelry district downtown. I saved a bunch of money and got much more personal assistant at a smaller shop.
Do your due diligence, it will help you out in the long run. You want to know about diamonds or whatever gems you are shopping for. What are the 4 C’s? Cut, Clarity, Carat and Color. These are what make a diamond expensive or reasonable. What kind of metal does your significant other like? Are they allergic to any metal? My wife is allergic to silver, so I stayed away from that.
Best of luck in making this tough decision, friends, you won’t regret it. This ring symbolizes your love for each other so don’t take this task lightly. Money isn’t the only deciding factor, so ask questions, take your time and enjoy the ride.